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You Can Connect Guidelines

We're all here for similar reasons - we've been touched by cancer in some way. It’s up to all of us to show each other that no one is alone. Your You Can Connect profile is your own place to call home during this crazy thing called cancer, we just ask that you keep these simple guidelines in mind when participating.

1. Always Be Nice. This is a place for connections and conversations – we encourage you all to talk openly but please remain considerate in all of your engagement. Don’t post obscene, hateful or objectionable content. Abuse and disrespect will not be tolerated in the You Can Connect community and is subject to deletion and user removal at our discretion.

2. Be a Good Friend. The You Can Connect community is a family. Please remember to be a good friend to the connections you make on You Can Connect. Ask questions that you wish someone would ask you; if you can’t find the right words to say, send a hug, it can speak louder than words. A simple gesture goes a long way.

3. Don't Spam. This includes sending unsolicited messages of any nature, posting links to unrelated content, promoting a survey, fundraiser or product where it shouldn’t be promoted. If you aren’t sure if something is appropriate to post, e-mail us and we’ll let you know.

4. Think Before You Post. Everything you post on You Can Connect is secure, but it is up to you to monitor how much or how little information you are sharing about yourself and your experience. Please don’t share personal or identifiable information like your mailing address or your full name and don’t share other member’s information.

5. If You See Something, Say Something. We work hard to make sure these guidelines are followed closely but if you see something that doesn’t’ feel right to you, please let us know. We review every report we receive and will take anything you say to heart. We promise.

6. Be Open. Welcome newcomers and help guide them through this journey based on your own experience. Whether you are a survivor, fighter, caregiver or supporter, you have valuable information that can very well help someone else who is just beginning the cancer journey. Be open to sharing experiences and give someone else the gift of your time.

Thanks for being a part of our community. It’s up to all of us to ensure that You Can Connect remains a place for us all to call home when dealing with the ups and downs of a cancer diagnosis.

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Survivor: Hodgkin's Lymphoma

Dear Cancer, I still don't understand anything about our relationship. Why you? Why me? Why now? They say the first year of marriage is the hardest, but you were not the wedding present my husband and I had in mind. I know that I'm one of the lucky ones, that you're no more than a petulant toddler throwing a tantrum in my life compared to some of the trials my new peers have to face. I know that, and I know that knowledge should comfort me. But it doesn't. It just makes me feel guilty. Guilty for every tear I shed. Guilty for every angry word. Guilty for every sympathetic word sent my way. I tell myself that, with you, there is no "lucky," only "less unlucky." But even that feels somehow ungrateful. Few symptoms, fewer side effects. From diagnosis to remission in four months. So how did you still manage to tear my life, my identity shreds? Why do you deserve to be my first thought upon waking and my last when I go to bed? Even as I write, I feel guilty. False. You give me the right to be here, but I must give myself permission to stay. Despite your presence in my life, I'm not sure I deserve that permission. But I will stay, for now at least. I will stay with the hope that someday my words will be hopeful instead of despairing. I will stay with the hope that someday those words can comfort and help someone more deserving than I. I will stay, and maybe I can convince myself that I do deserve it.

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