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You Can Connect Guidelines

We're all here for similar reasons - we've been touched by cancer in some way. It’s up to all of us to show each other that no one is alone. Your You Can Connect profile is your own place to call home during this crazy thing called cancer, we just ask that you keep these simple guidelines in mind when participating.

1. Always Be Nice. This is a place for connections and conversations – we encourage you all to talk openly but please remain considerate in all of your engagement. Don’t post obscene, hateful or objectionable content. Abuse and disrespect will not be tolerated in the You Can Connect community and is subject to deletion and user removal at our discretion.

2. Be a Good Friend. The You Can Connect community is a family. Please remember to be a good friend to the connections you make on You Can Connect. Ask questions that you wish someone would ask you; if you can’t find the right words to say, send a hug, it can speak louder than words. A simple gesture goes a long way.

3. Don't Spam. This includes sending unsolicited messages of any nature, posting links to unrelated content, promoting a survey, fundraiser or product where it shouldn’t be promoted. If you aren’t sure if something is appropriate to post, e-mail us and we’ll let you know.

4. Think Before You Post. Everything you post on You Can Connect is secure, but it is up to you to monitor how much or how little information you are sharing about yourself and your experience. Please don’t share personal or identifiable information like your mailing address or your full name and don’t share other member’s information.

5. If You See Something, Say Something. We work hard to make sure these guidelines are followed closely but if you see something that doesn’t’ feel right to you, please let us know. We review every report we receive and will take anything you say to heart. We promise.

6. Be Open. Welcome newcomers and help guide them through this journey based on your own experience. Whether you are a survivor, fighter, caregiver or supporter, you have valuable information that can very well help someone else who is just beginning the cancer journey. Be open to sharing experiences and give someone else the gift of your time.

Thanks for being a part of our community. It’s up to all of us to ensure that You Can Connect remains a place for us all to call home when dealing with the ups and downs of a cancer diagnosis.

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MMlives Connect

Survivor: Multiple Myeloma

Of course I passively wonder from time to time "why" this happened, being diagnosed with cancer. I never question though "why me". It's a waste of time, and in all honesty, I don't know if I'd really ever to want to change what has resulted so far from this experience. I am incredibly lucky today for what I do have. As of late, I have tried to remember this, because it can be way too easy for me - or anyone to jump down the rabbit hole of dwelling on the past, or comparing oneself to the next. What I'm realizing though as I'm getting older and with years of experience under my belt, is that I'm here for a reason. And I want to share this reason with the world one day. I don't know how exactly I'm going to do this but what I do know is that I have story to tell. To hopefully make a difference in others lives, the way so many people helped me. The stories of pain and setbacks that I endured for three years have started to re-emerge in me. Not in a traumatic type way, but I can feel my past, which I tried to sprint away from once I was fully "healed" growing increasingly louder within me right now. I'm beginning to see my place in the world a little differently because of this, I was given the sickening gift of being forced to faced how I want my life to go at an early age. I chose to fight and endure the physical and physiological battles of doing everything I could to survive and get better. I was unlucky enough to be diagnosed with this rare form of cancer, and now I feel lucky enough to share my scars so I can help heal others.

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