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You Can Connect Guidelines

We're all here for similar reasons - we've been touched by cancer in some way. It’s up to all of us to show each other that no one is alone. Your You Can Connect profile is your own place to call home during this crazy thing called cancer, we just ask that you keep these simple guidelines in mind when participating.

1. Always Be Nice. This is a place for connections and conversations – we encourage you all to talk openly but please remain considerate in all of your engagement. Don’t post obscene, hateful or objectionable content. Abuse and disrespect will not be tolerated in the You Can Connect community and is subject to deletion and user removal at our discretion.

2. Be a Good Friend. The You Can Connect community is a family. Please remember to be a good friend to the connections you make on You Can Connect. Ask questions that you wish someone would ask you; if you can’t find the right words to say, send a hug, it can speak louder than words. A simple gesture goes a long way.

3. Don't Spam. This includes sending unsolicited messages of any nature, posting links to unrelated content, promoting a survey, fundraiser or product where it shouldn’t be promoted. If you aren’t sure if something is appropriate to post, e-mail us and we’ll let you know.

4. Think Before You Post. Everything you post on You Can Connect is secure, but it is up to you to monitor how much or how little information you are sharing about yourself and your experience. Please don’t share personal or identifiable information like your mailing address or your full name and don’t share other member’s information.

5. If You See Something, Say Something. We work hard to make sure these guidelines are followed closely but if you see something that doesn’t’ feel right to you, please let us know. We review every report we receive and will take anything you say to heart. We promise.

6. Be Open. Welcome newcomers and help guide them through this journey based on your own experience. Whether you are a survivor, fighter, caregiver or supporter, you have valuable information that can very well help someone else who is just beginning the cancer journey. Be open to sharing experiences and give someone else the gift of your time.

Thanks for being a part of our community. It’s up to all of us to ensure that You Can Connect remains a place for us all to call home when dealing with the ups and downs of a cancer diagnosis.

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Lolitasjourney Connect

Patient: Non-Hodgkin's Lymphoma

Dear cancer, yo came uninvited three years ago and you crashed my party way to early, three years in and you´re still a pain the *ss. You didn´t care that i was a 20 year old senior in law school, with a good job and that just got her first car. You didn´t care that i had scholarship for a masters degree. You made me put my life on hold and not exactly the type of hold you can just pick up where you left of. I´m here living the best i can this new ´´Normal´´life. I´ve had to learn how to live with permanent brain fog, with PTSD, with the constant fear and anxiety about relapsing even worst than the first relapse, with the emotional rollercoaster that makes me so isolated that i´m unable to relate to others. You made me vulnerable to the comments of those who think the struggle it´s over because treatment is and how i should be grateful that i got the´´good cancer´´. I´m still learning, growing, coping and struggling, trying to figure out this new normal but you know what F. you cause i´m still here a little broken but still strong. I hate you, but thank you for making me more human and humble everyday. Sincerely, Lola

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