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You Can Connect Guidelines

We're all here for similar reasons - we've been touched by cancer in some way. It’s up to all of us to show each other that no one is alone. Your You Can Connect profile is your own place to call home during this crazy thing called cancer, we just ask that you keep these simple guidelines in mind when participating.

1. Always Be Nice. This is a place for connections and conversations – we encourage you all to talk openly but please remain considerate in all of your engagement. Don’t post obscene, hateful or objectionable content. Abuse and disrespect will not be tolerated in the You Can Connect community and is subject to deletion and user removal at our discretion.

2. Be a Good Friend. The You Can Connect community is a family. Please remember to be a good friend to the connections you make on You Can Connect. Ask questions that you wish someone would ask you; if you can’t find the right words to say, send a hug, it can speak louder than words. A simple gesture goes a long way.

3. Don't Spam. This includes sending unsolicited messages of any nature, posting links to unrelated content, promoting a survey, fundraiser or product where it shouldn’t be promoted. If you aren’t sure if something is appropriate to post, e-mail us and we’ll let you know.

4. Think Before You Post. Everything you post on You Can Connect is secure, but it is up to you to monitor how much or how little information you are sharing about yourself and your experience. Please don’t share personal or identifiable information like your mailing address or your full name and don’t share other member’s information.

5. If You See Something, Say Something. We work hard to make sure these guidelines are followed closely but if you see something that doesn’t’ feel right to you, please let us know. We review every report we receive and will take anything you say to heart. We promise.

6. Be Open. Welcome newcomers and help guide them through this journey based on your own experience. Whether you are a survivor, fighter, caregiver or supporter, you have valuable information that can very well help someone else who is just beginning the cancer journey. Be open to sharing experiences and give someone else the gift of your time.

Thanks for being a part of our community. It’s up to all of us to ensure that You Can Connect remains a place for us all to call home when dealing with the ups and downs of a cancer diagnosis.

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Kayla-99652 Connect

Survivor: Ocular Melanoma

Dear cancer, I freaking HATE you. You stole my livelihood, my happiness, my expectations. You made me feel disfigured and you altered how I was made. You made me lose hope. You caused depression, anxiety, and many sleepless nights. You made me go into shock. You took what had taken me years to build up. You made me think about dying way too many times. You made me hold back, scared to let my guard down from the disappointments you would bring. You tried to kill me. You thought you destroyed me, but let's face it, I destroyed you. I chose to kill you. I cut you out of my body, after burning you alive. I let my faith demolish your fear. I got strong as you became weak. I celebrated each time you grew more distant. I pray to never see you again. You already have taken people I love and I refuse to let you do the same to me. You created this monster that you now will never destroy. The thought of you makes me sick. You are the most dreaded thing in the world. One day, all you will be is a memory, because we will find a cure and your time is limited.

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