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You Can Connect Guidelines

We're all here for similar reasons - we've been touched by cancer in some way. It’s up to all of us to show each other that no one is alone. Your You Can Connect profile is your own place to call home during this crazy thing called cancer, we just ask that you keep these simple guidelines in mind when participating.

1. Always Be Nice. This is a place for connections and conversations – we encourage you all to talk openly but please remain considerate in all of your engagement. Don’t post obscene, hateful or objectionable content. Abuse and disrespect will not be tolerated in the You Can Connect community and is subject to deletion and user removal at our discretion.

2. Be a Good Friend. The You Can Connect community is a family. Please remember to be a good friend to the connections you make on You Can Connect. Ask questions that you wish someone would ask you; if you can’t find the right words to say, send a hug, it can speak louder than words. A simple gesture goes a long way.

3. Don't Spam. This includes sending unsolicited messages of any nature, posting links to unrelated content, promoting a survey, fundraiser or product where it shouldn’t be promoted. If you aren’t sure if something is appropriate to post, e-mail us and we’ll let you know.

4. Think Before You Post. Everything you post on You Can Connect is secure, but it is up to you to monitor how much or how little information you are sharing about yourself and your experience. Please don’t share personal or identifiable information like your mailing address or your full name and don’t share other member’s information.

5. If You See Something, Say Something. We work hard to make sure these guidelines are followed closely but if you see something that doesn’t’ feel right to you, please let us know. We review every report we receive and will take anything you say to heart. We promise.

6. Be Open. Welcome newcomers and help guide them through this journey based on your own experience. Whether you are a survivor, fighter, caregiver or supporter, you have valuable information that can very well help someone else who is just beginning the cancer journey. Be open to sharing experiences and give someone else the gift of your time.

Thanks for being a part of our community. It’s up to all of us to ensure that You Can Connect remains a place for us all to call home when dealing with the ups and downs of a cancer diagnosis.

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Bree15 Connect

Survivor: Breast Cancer

Dear Cancer, Why me? I want to know. Why did you come into my life and forever change it? I was just minding my own business, trying to make a better life for myself and my son when you make your way into our lives. Do you know how that messed up my son emotionally? He feared going to school and coming home to being told that I had passed away . He would cry every night and prayed to God he wouldn't take me away from him because I was all he had. Do you know how hard it was to fight you everyday for 3 years? Even 3 years after I beat you I still think about you and how you have changed me . I lost myself to you and I don't know how to get some of that back. I ask you again why? Why did you have to come into my life?Why did you have to make my family suffer so much?You decided you wanted to come into my life without remorse but you know I'm not angry for having you in my life.What I am is broken to the point where I don't know how to put the pieces back together in any way. You took away who I was ,that when I was done with treatments and they say "okay your finish time to move on" I don't even know what they meant because that person that I was before meeting you was dead. That person died during chemotherapy, radiation, and surgery after surgery for 3 years. So in a way I guess I can't say that I'm a survivor because you killed me. I poisoned, burned and cut open all on the name saving my life. Why? Why ? Why? I just want an explanation for you coming here and ruining my life

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